I think of sex as having three differently levels of intimacy.

On the first level, sex is just physical. If you meet a guy and he wants to have sex with you, he likes your body. He wants to see you naked, and he wants to imagine having sex with you. It is all physical.

Only some guys are actually interested in that. They are easy to find. Well, they will find you.

If a guy likes you, then that changes everything. He still wants to see your breasts naked, and he will still be excited by them. But he wants to see them because they are your breasts. He still wants to have sex with you, but it is sex with you.

Now let me skip to sex with females. Obviously, if you meet a female and she wants to have sex, you can have sex on the purely physical level.

But there is another completely different way that females have sex. As a female, you probably have a strong need to form bonds with other people. Sex is just another way of forming a bond.

So the goal in female-female sex is to be intimate. It is an emotional intimacy, built on a physical intimacy.

That's about the best I can explain it!

I said there was a third level of intimacy in sex. That's the third level. When you are with a guy you like and know, you can go to that third level. Sex becomes a way of affirming the bond you have with him outside of sex. It is a way of being intimate because you want to be intimate with him.